Should we stop dating

And maybe it's because my current relationship has actually lasted longer than two weeks (I wouldn't be surprised if our friends had a betting pool going) so it won't seem completely insensitive to blog about it, or maybe it's because I feel convicted enough in my research to let the judgment fly, but either way, let's talk about breaking hearts.

Carrie Bradshaw told us that there is a good way to break up with somebody.

I have a really hard time knowing people don't like me, but it's unrealistic to expect that an ex is going to just let a breakup slide off their back and switch to being buds with you. The more selfless thing you can do in this situation is be firm with your decision.5. But remember that uncomfortable feelings and difficult experiences are all part of being a human.

While people love to tell you there is honor in “building with” a man, there is also honor in stepping back and letting him build for himself.

And in all honesty, someone with a great deal of potential and not a lot to show for it in the meantime probably doesn’t need to be in a relationship with anybody at the moment.

I've felt apprehensive about writing on this topic and have thus avoided it for a while.

Then today I read this article, and realized it was time.

Yes, it’s great to see the good in someone, and it’s even better to see the potential in all they can become, but do not go from seeing to feeling obligated to be with them.

You can support them without entering into any sort of romantic situation with them.For example, don't say "I'm not emotionally available" or "You deserve better." Those statement might be true, but they're likely not the reason you want to end things.Try something like, "I'm not totally invested in this, and I don't think it's fair to you to continue stringing you along," or "I've been seeing someone else and I think we're a better fit for each other."2.When you date the potential in someone, you are dating an imaginary person that has not yet caught up to the individual you have envisioned them to be.And you hurt your own feelings when you watch the time go by and the goals for this person fail be met.I know most of you can relate to this topic; some of you have been on both sides of the experience, and some of you only on one.

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