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Before all of this had happened people in my work had been trying to set us up as well.So I asked him about it and completely came clean about the whole thing and promised me that he was going to tell me before we went on a date or anything anyway because he's legally obligated to tell his probation officer everything he does and would have to inform me of his transgressions before dating me.He told me that he’d been given a Sexual Offences Prevention Order (SOPO) for an indefinite period of time.

And it says this in his court statement as well, which makes me want to believe him.

I've currently been going through some difficult emotional issues on my own due to a long history of depression and today his officer came by just to have a chat with me about him and to make sure that I knew the whole story, which I do.

After we’d eaten, he told me that he needed to have a chat with me about something from his past which was likely to affect his present and his future.

His first words were and, as he continued he revealed to me that he had some historical sexual offences for which he’d spent four years in prison. He continued to explain that in 2010 he’d received a further conviction for downloading and distributing indecent images.

We were there for over an hour whilst I was asked what I’d been told about the convictions, whether I had any children or grandchildren under the age of 18 (I didn’t).

It wasn’t a particularly pleasant experience but it could have been a lot worse. Well this man is now my husband and I couldn’t imagine my life without him in it.

We chatted a lot over that weekend and, when I left for work early on the Monday morning, I’m pretty sure that he didn’t expect to hear from me again.

I don’t give up easily and in the following weeks, I bombarded him with questions and made him tell me the full details of his offences – I felt I needed to get a better understanding of why he’d done what he did and I needed to be sure that I could accept this man and his past.

As he was explaining the circumstances, I was surprised to find my heart going out to him and I started to appreciate that a persons lifestyle and background can have a lot to do with why they break the law.

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