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A dating relationship is a marriage covenant, but the spiritual and emotional stakes are still high.If we are honest with ourselves, we will admit that the liberties many of us take in dating are more likely to harm our future marriage (and our significant other’s future marriage) than they are to prepare us for marriage.
You should always be making progress whether you are single or with someone; in fact, true love pushes you to be more. Marriage is possible but a good marriage needs a good foundation. Minimize causing heartbreaks because sometimes you will break someone’s heart when you choose not to date them or because the right thing to do is to break up. Some stay in the wrong relationship just because they are getting good sex. Soon, the relationship ends with regret or with you having a child and the father running away or years of your life wasted in the name of sex leading to retrogressive emptiness. But sometimes dating reveals just how much you two are not compatible.
When your feelings are hurt by your lover, be honest. Establish good communication, nurture good habits, agree on dos and don’ts, set the right love culture. The Lord reveals things progressively, seek God until you reach the place you are sure being husband and wife is God’s will. You can’t stay or be with someone because you feel sorry for them. Sometimes a relationship ends, not because of wrong done or unfaithfulness, but because the two are not meant to be.
When something doesn’t sit right with you, be honest. But don’t complain, don’t attack or nag but rather use honesty to better your love. What God has joined together, let no one put asunder. There will be challenges, misunderstandings, moods, highs, lows, trials, disappointments in your relationship; but remember, love is two imperfect people growing together. Grow spiritually, emotionally, socially, physically, financially. The love you had was for a season but still a blessing.
Don’t pretend you are happy just to please your lover, you will eventually explode and despise your lover for the issues unattended to. Envision the future together, where are you heading? Marry because you are sure you’re right for each other, because your future is brighter than the colorful past you have spent dating.
No one wants to exclusively commit to a relationship that doesn’t yield a future or that goes nowhere. When you know your destination you will know which route goes there. Whatever qualities you want in a spouse, have them too.
Your time, love and heart is too precious to waste. When you know the kind of family you need, you will know the qualities in a spouse required to have that kind of family. You will not find that person or be found by that person if you don’t connect with people.
My problem was that I subtly treated each new relationship — each marriage — like a mini-marriage. The men or women we date are not a series of lab experiments that prepare us to be a better husband or wife.
The relationships are real relationships, and the people are (most likely) someone else’s future husband or wife.
For instance, one popular Christian dating book reads, “Dating is an incubator time of discovering the opposite sex, one’s own sexual feelings, moral limits, one’s need for relationship skills, and one’s tastes for people.” Sounds practical and reasonable on the surface.
Until you think about putting yourself (or your daughter) into someone else’s “incubator” for a few months, or years, while he or she tries out their “sexual feelings” and “moral limits.” We put too much of ourselves at risk in dating to donate our hearts to someone’s romantic experiment.
Instead of “studying” for marriage by only giving ourselves away to other lovesick single people, we give ourselves to observing real-life, faithful, and happy husbands and wives.Tags: Adult Dating, affair dating, sex dating