Dating traditional guy

A decade ago, my plans for coming to China included teaching for a year, two...maybe even three, before returning to the US to start my teaching career.Dating was not part of my plan, so when it happened, I was completely unprepared for it.So, if you're dating a Chinese guy, make sure to figure out what the both of you want out of the relationship so you can manage expectations.

Looking back, I would have loved to know what I was getting myself into or at least some advice on navigating Chinese dating culture.

Since my experience was limited to just my husband, I got some additional input from two American bloggers living in China: Jocelyn Eikenburg writes Both talk about their relationships with their Chinese significant others.

I didn't realize just how common this is when we were dating and I got lucky and found a guy that likes to stay close to home.

The two times he's been given the option to go to Inner Mongolia, and triple his income, he's turned it down.

Compared to the way my husband grew up in post-Cultural Revolution China, the modest home I grew up in is a mansion.

He always paid on dates, but when he had the opportunity to get his research published in some professional journals and couldn't afford the fee, he was very hesitant to accept the money from me.My sister-in-law and her husband spent their whole time dating and the first four years of their marriage living in different cities, countries even, due to work.At least half of the kids I tutor only see their dad once a year because of this.I try to listen out of respect, then choose whether or not I'll follow what they say.Presumably, you meet your boyfriend while you're both in the same city as most couples do, but a large number of Chinese couples live and work in different cities.They just seem to be more open to the idea of leaving.

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