Dating insecure guy

She wants to be the only person in your life, so she methodically attempts to alienate you from everyone you care about.

This is just an attempt to control the relationship, and by extension, you.

Insecurity causes people to define themselves by their failures, and she’s going to try to drag you down that road, too.

Money and possessions are quantitative things that insecure people can point to as proof that they’re doing well in life.

Does she laugh when she sees an old person fall down? You make an innocuous comment about how you’re glad the weather’s cooling down and she accuses you of calling her fat.

Does she celebrate when someone she doesn’t like gets fired or dumped? You tell her how much you got done today and she insists she did more.

Like I mentioned, it’s flattering when someone thinks you’re the shit, but don’t believe the hype. Most of us can tell when we’re being flirted with, but an insecure woman assumes every conversation you have with someone of the opposite sex is going to lead to you dumping her for an upgrade, so she always swoops in to intervene.

A little is fine and perfectly normal, but you should be able to tell when she’s moving into bunny-boiler territory.

Experiences with insecure men The first time I ever dated an insecure guy was almost a decade ago.

He was an exceptionally great guy who loved me and treated me like a princess. A few months into the relationship, he thought my friends were a bad influence on me.

At first, he may be quiet and always ready to give you advice when you need it.

But as the months start to roll by, you’d see that the advice would start to turn into sulking commands and manipulative pleas to arm twist you into doing what he wants.

At least in all the men I’ve dated, more than half of them were insecure. What’s more surprising is that I’m not the only one who’s had to deal with insecure men.

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