Dating in the 1980 s 1970 dating
They were afraid they would be rejected out of hand, or made fun of.And they, too, were afraid of being trapped into being with someone who was undesirable.
I remember, now, an experience I had when I was in medical school. After a time, she asked if I would accompany her to the theater. To be forward that way meant either that she was desperate or that she had tremendous self-confidence. When I met her, I decided she was probably desperate.
I lived at the Hall of Residence and helped make ends meet by working at the switchboard, (Believe it or not, there was such a thing as a switchboard.) I tried to connect a woman who wanted to reach one of the medical students. It would not be gallant of me to describe her; but I had a good time anyway! By the way, the men who advertised, or answered advertisements, had their own concerns.
During that particular time, after college, men and women sometimes found it difficult to find each other.
The same was true for those who did not go to college in the first place.
Answering advertisements was not yet entirely respectable, but I knew of some doctors and lawyers who married someone they met under these circumstances, (including a friend, who was a psychiatrist.
The person he met and married was another psychiatrist.) There were two problems inherent in advertising for dating purposes, or answering such advertisements.
Women made the trip west with the expectation that they would marry and be happy-- more or less.
And it turned out they did and were, although there is never very much evidence about whether or not a particular married couple is really happy.
The women reported to me that they did not feel threatened—although they were very likely to report that they felt disappointed. Most of the precautions I thought were important were against being stuck for a whole evening with a boring date.Tags: Adult Dating, affair dating, sex dating