Dating in japan times

Putting some thought and effort into organizing a good meal or other event for your first time together will, hopefully, score you a few extra points with your potential partner. Give it at least a month or two of getting to know each other before broaching that particular issue.

Of course, everyone is different, and if she wants to come over to your place earlier, then that’s your call to make.

So, instead, today I hope to impart a few simple pearls of wisdom garnered from almost a decade of dating in Japan.

I’ve had some great experiences, and I’ve had some truly excruciating ones, but overall it’s been a fun and informative adventure thus far.

Indeed, the pursuit of that ideal lady to be my life partner here in Japan has been something of an ongoing struggle throughout the 10 years since I first moved to Tokyo.

So, I wonder, what have I learned through my struggles?

In time, as you get to know each other more, you will probably find yourselves communicating in a mix of Japanese and English that is comfortable for both of you.

It is an oft-misappropriated stereotype that Japanese people are cold and passionless and lacking in any romantic expressive abilities. Whilst you may find she is reluctant to hold hands or hug and kiss in public, let’s face it: that can be the case with women anywhere in the world.

However, I have found that Japanese women like it when the man takes the lead in planning where to go and what to do on a first date.

A common criticism many of my Japanese female friends have of Japanese guys these days is that they are indecisive and sometimes come across as lazy and non-committal. More so in Japan than in other countries, going to the home of someone of the opposite sex is seen as something that only people in a committed relationship would do.

Once she is comfortable with you and your relationship has reached a certain point you’ll find Japanese people have a great deal of love, passion and desire buried beneath that shy, nervous exterior.

Again, without going into graphic detail, it’s safe to say that, when a Japanese woman is ready to take things to the next level of your relationship, she will let know and it will be an experience you won’t forget anytime soon!

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