Dating a christian woman
Where a relationship is shorter, accountability stronger, and the level of temptation, and the likelihood of sin, goes down.
To put it simply, “not acting married before you’re married,” gets exponentially more difficult the longer a pre-marital relationship persists.
I’ve spoken to numerous “long-dating” couples, in college and beyond, who other than living together, could do little to intertwine their lives any more than they already are.
Over time, maybe you take some of the same classes, live near one another, etc.
In that context, living with the desires I’ve just described, how likely do you think it is that over the course of two or three or four years — some couples date over most of their college years — you will be able to maintain enough emotional discipline and distance to avoid acting emotionally and relationally “married”?
Scripture calls Christians to “flee” from sexual immorality (1 Corinthians ), not to “see how difficult we can make the temptation and still prevail” or to “see how close to the line we can get without sinning.” In my view, Scripture teaches clearly that there is to be romantic physical intimacy outside of marriage.
No reasonable person would argue that physical temptation does not increase — a lot — the longer two people date who are attracted to each other and who grow to love each other.
As to emotional intimacy, we live in the age of email, free long distance and unlimited any-time minutes, and cheap flights.
It’s still really easy to “act married” emotionally, even in a long-distance relationship.
On most college campuses, that likely puts the two of you in the same relatively small social circle.
Perhaps both of you are active in the same campus ministry, you go to the same church.
It may, as a practical matter, necessitate addressing issues and being a bit more intimate than they were before, but the simple fact is that couples break up even after engagement. By the way, more than one set of Christian parents have relented on this question in the face of Scott Croft served for several years as chairman of the elders at Capitol Hill Baptist Church in Washington, D.
Your fiancé is not your spouse until the wedding is over. C., where he wrote and taught the Friendship, Courtship & Marriage and Biblical Manhood & Womanhood CORE Seminars.
As to physical intimacy, many long-distance couples have told me that because they are not physically close to one another as often, they actually experience Um, no. Be deliberate about avoiding “marital” levels of intimacy.Tags: Adult Dating, affair dating, sex dating